Recently, I have read several articles that laid out different kissing challenges. One suggested you kiss for at least a minute and the other said to make this the year of locking lips. I am a huge proponent of intimacy in marriage and I believe that kissing is a big part of that. When you are in your dating years, you likely spent a lot of time making out with your boyfriend or girlfriend; that is of course, unless you were part of those that kissed dating goodbye. Regardless of whether you spent your days of dating or the early years of marriage locking lips with your loved one, what about now?
Why is it Important to Kiss Your Spouse
There are so many reasons why kissing your spouse is important for your marriage. Here are just a few of those reason:
Affection- a simple peck can show someone how much you care for them. Showing your spouse affection on a daily basis is crucial to a healthy marriage. It is easier to be affectionate when you are used to doing it often.
Acceptance- when you put your lips on your loved one, you are communicating acceptance of them.
Intimacy- being face to face with your spouse brings immediate intimacy. Intimate encounters are not the only way to bring closeness in a marriage.
What Keeps Couples From Kissing
If you have gotten to a place in your marriage where this act of love is no longer happening, then I am erging you to figure out why you no longer kiss. Maybe you have a time issue and feel like you must choose between having an intimate encounter or making out, so you choose the passionate time together without kissing.
Or perhaps there are other reasons that keep you from tasting your loved one’s mouth. For a long time, I avoided prolonged smooching if I didn’t have the desire to take things further. You know what I’m talking about. I think women are more inclined to this way of thinking than men. In fact, my lack of desire kept me from many forms of flirting with my husband. After several years, I addressed this problem within myself, and decided that I would flirt and kiss freely, even if I didn’t have the desire in that moment to be intimate later.
You will have to figure out for yourself what keeps you from making out with your spouse. I encourage you to address any issues you have with this act, because it is affecting your sex life.
How to Make Kissing a Priority
I hate to say it this way, but sometimes, you just have to get in the habit of being passionate with your significant other. It almost sounds as if it is some sort of duty to your spouse, which can seem like a complete turn off. However, I think that making intimacy and making out a priority by doing it habitually, will lead to a more natural passion.
Here are a few ideas that will help you make kissing a priority.
Plan a Makeout Session- I know that initially this doesn’t sound very romantic, but that is not to say it won’t lead to something exciting. Making a plan and putting it on the calendar is a great way to build anticipation. Not only that, you will have cleared your schedule and you know you have time to do this. Go ahead and make up in your mind that this session is going to lead to an intimate encounter. That is the best way to feel free to makeout.
Kiss Goodbye- you can check out my full article about why kissing goodbye is beneficial in marriage.
Say Thank You By Locking Lips- instead of just using the words thank you to convey that message, consider planting one on your loved one.
There is no doubt that intimacy in marriage is built by many different actions, and making out is one of the top things that lead to closeness.