The Reality of Giving Your Spouse a Strip Tease

Giving your spouse a strip tease sounds so sexy! Amiright? But have you ever tried to strip down in a sexy way? It’s way harder than it seems, and the entire time, you feel like you have no idea what you’re doing. Are they getting turned on? Is this even sexy? I get it. Here are some of my thoughts on the reality of giving your spouse a strip tease. 


The Reality of Giving Your Spouse a Striptease

Here’s the reality – trying to get undressed in a sexy way is 100% awkward….the first few times. You are going to feel like a big dweeb. Some people never get away from that feeling, but if you do it enough, practice, and listen to the praise of your spouse, I’m positive you’ll have a confidence boost on your next date night. 

Anytime you go out on a limb for your lover, it can be really scary. You will think the entire time that you are not doing something right. However, I think most of us appreciate it when someone has clearly put a lot of effort into doing something sweet for us.

Even if you feel silly, your spouse may absolutely love the fact that you tried and will most likely be pleased with what you did for them.

How Do You Make it Less Awkward and Uncomfortable?

Really, all you are trying to do is please your spouse. You don’t have to please anyone else but them. Woman, you have an audience of one to perform for! Just one! How incredible is that?

Ask your spouse what they like or would like during a strip tease and try to do it. Does he want to film your dance moves, have music playing, or want you to wear a specific outfit, like one of his favorite skin-tight outfits of yours? Experimenting is all you can do when it comes to trying to undress in a seductive manner.

Also, remind yourself to slow down. You can tend to speed things up when you feel nervous.

Can You Undress Each Other in a Sexy Way?


On to the next question that I’ve seen come across, “How to undress your wife or husband.” I just laugh out loud at this one because it is super hard to undress another person- especially while you are kissing and attempting to keep eye contact. Again, movies are not real, and you do not have the stage directions for how each of you is supposed to move around.

It can be fun to try and undress each other- I mean- it can be funny…downright hilarious, actually. You will likely have a great laugh trying to get each other’s clothes off. That is absolutely ok to have silly sex and laugh a lot.

Oh- I know laughing isn’t what you consider to be sexy, but it’s just going to happen sometimes. It’s ok to laugh and have fun with your spouse, even when you are doing something that’s sexy!

Do a Stript Tease While You Do a Sexy Lap Dance

Because I know how awkward and nervous it can be doing a strip tease or a sexy lap dance, I put together instructions on how to do that for your next date night. You can grab the printable version of the sexy lap dance instructions in the shop. Click the link below to get a copy.

Check out this YouTube video I did on how to do a sexy lap dance. I give you a few practice pointers there that can help a woman be dancing with confidence.

It’s Ok To Try Something That Doesn’t Work Out in The Bedroom

I think you should try a lot of different things in the bedroom to see what works and what doesn’t. If it doesn’t work the first time, try again. Maybe it will work the next time.

Go ahead and try to get undressed in a sexy way, even if you laugh and blush through the whole thing. It could fulfill one of their fantasies about you! Try to take each other’s clothes off even if you have to give up and unbutton your own pants or snap off your own bra.

Don’t let awkward feelings keep you from exploring your sexuality through a strip tease with your lover. They are the ones you should be able to do crazy things around and know they are still going to love you.

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  1. Your husbands will see you as sexy but that makes it barely less difficult for you. I get that. They need to try doing a Chippendale’s routine in a serious way to be able to empathize. If you don’t feel your body is sexy in that overt visual way it’s hard to feel like anything you do is sexy. And then there’s the possible feeling that you are in competition with professional strippers to qualify yourself as being physically sexy.

    I think the best place to start is allowing your partner to undress you, husband or wife. It allows them to take all the time they want and to focus on the areas of most adoration to them, which may come as a BIG surprise to you and a welcome one. Then there is the absolute pleasure of having your clothes patiently and slowly removed by someone who is admiring every inch of you body. Being undressed by your lover can be very sensual and highly erotic. I think it’s a better place to start than stripping so you can become confident in knowing what it is you need to feature if you ever do strip for them. What is it about you that makes their heart beat faster and their lungs gasp when seeing and touching you?

  2. I want my wife to do this so badly. I would much rather visually see her than wondering about someone else. I’m a man with real needs too. My wife is beautiful and sexy. I ask her and to no avail it never happens. There was an episode of Desperate Housewives where Rex was not getting any attention from Bree. He finally sought out a madame to fulfill his fantasy needs. I would much rather see my wife. She is perfectly happy never having sex again.

    1. Hi Wayne, I’m so sorry you’re in this position. There are other couples that struggle with the same things. I recommend you check out my friend Jay Dee’s coaching for men in your situation. Here’s the link to his page and if you scroll to the bottom it’ll tell you the costs on it: He was in a sexless marriage like yours for many years but he and his wife turned that around. I’ll be praying for you.

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