It’s confession time here…there are things I have done in my life that I said I would never do. Who else has been there? I know I’m not the only one that has had really strong convictions about stuff and then found themselves compromising…or worse…changing their minds about their ideals.
There is nothing wrong with having an idea in your head about what you would do given different situations. When you are in the moment, what you said you would do and what you actually chose to do is not always the same. Here are things I said I would never do, but I did them anyways.
1. I Will Never Work Outside of The Home While My Kids Are Little
Oh man…did I break this one right off the bat. It wasn’t more than my 6 weeks recovery time after my first son that I had a job lined up. So much for not being a stay at home mom.
Austin and I had just moved to a new town and bought our first house. He he took his first Associate Pastor position. He went to work at the church part-time and had the intentions of starting seminary in the fall.
The salary was definitely promising, actually more than we had ever made combined. However, throwing in a mortgage payment and a baby can really mess up a budget.
Austin agreed to stay home with Corbin while I worked as a part time manager at Chic-fil-a. We agreed it would be better for him to stay at the house and try to study for school….while taking care of a baby (boy, we had no idea what we were doing did we?).
As you can imagine, it quickly turned into Austin caring for Corbin while I worked, instead of him getting anything accomplished. That was something I never wanted to do, but it was the best thing that could have happened to my husband as a new daddy.
I came home to be a SAHM before my second son was born, and Austin took on a second job to make up for the loss of income. This experience was a positive one for my family.
2. I Will Never Sell My Stuff
We are a very blessed family from the amount of hand-me-downs and other things we are given. Just about everything in our home and closets have been straight out given to us by kind people throughout the years.
Since we spend very little money buying clothes, furniture, decorations, and other household items, we decided to never sell our stuff. It has always been important to us to give back what God has given to us.
A few years ago, we tried to sell a few things on eBay. These were mostly electronics and other higher dollar items we didn’t think would be best sent to a thrift store. Some were school books that I felt were best sold online because people who actually needed these items could find them. (I don’t regret selling the school books online).
We certainly rationalized our way of thinking and put these items up for auction. With the school books, I didn’t care if they really sold for much. I just wanted other homeschooling families to find the curriculum they needed. However, with the electronics, we hoped to make a little bit of money, because we had some serious shortages in our budget.
At the end of selling those items, we made next to nothing. I pretty much stink at selling on eBay. It was not a good experience and showed us we needed to stick to giving those things away like we have always done.
3. I Will Never Be Self-Employed
Being self-employed is one of those things that scared me to death…mainly because I didn’t want the hassle of figuring out what I owed in taxes. Another big reason is that I didn’t want to be self-employed is that I didn’t want to work by myself. I’m a people person, and not having others to work with would be really hard on me.
I am a work from home mom now, and I’ve actually learned to like it. Austin does my taxes, and if he didn’t, I wouldn’t be able to do this. This has been a positive experience for me, even though I said I would never do it.
4. I Will Never Give Up on Homeschooling
This school year is the first year my boys have gone to public school. Don’t misunderstand me here, I’ve never been against public schools. In fact, I’ve always said I wasn’t a homeschooler for life like a lot of people I know.
We made some major life changes that required me to earn an income. Even though I work from home, I could not manage to homeschool them and get my projects turned in on time.
Eventually, I planned to send our boys to public school, but I didn’t plan to do it this soon. I had to throw in the towel on this one and quit before I expected to.
This is a decision that I’ve wrestled with and struggled with even though it has been made. There have been a lot of positives and some negatives, too.
5. I Will Never Work Online
I actually laughed out loud at the words, “I will never work online”…that is what my entire business is based off of. When I’m not engaging with you guys on my blog, I’m freelance writing for others.
The biggest reason I said I would never work online is because I am not a computer person. I’m the girl that had to be convinced to get a smart phone…and let me tell you, it took a lot of convincing.
Doing anything computer related is super super difficult for me. It is like doing math…something I loathe and feel completely inadequate to do. However, it has been necessary for me to figure out a lot of things.
I praise God because He sent me a lot of people to take my hand and walk me step by step through the process of what I do now. There are still days when I get really frustrated and I want to punch my computer. For the most part though, working online has been a super positive experience for me.
These are some of my top things that I said I would never do, but I did anyways. All of these situations have been learning experiences for me that have been necessary. Some of the experiences have brought about positive changes, others haven’t. It’s all part of the learning process though.
What About You? What Have You Said You Would Never Do?