If you didn’t know, Austin and I are in the middle of a move. It’s so stressful! It doesn’t matter how many times we’ve done this, we still struggle with communicating with one another. Packing is stressful, but re-decorating a new house and figuring out where everything will go is the biggest problem.
The same goes with big DIY projects you want to do around the house. If you’ve ever spent time working on a big project with your spouse, then you know things can get heated between you.
I invited Bobby Miller on to share a few things you can do to keep the stress to a minimum when you are planning a big project with your spouse.
This is what he has to say-
Working on a DIY project can be a fun and fulfilling task, especially when you’re creating something new or remodeling some part of your house that has been driving you nuts for years. But, we all know how hard it is to do a project with your spouse without fighting.
Here are 4 tips to help you stay sane while working with one another.
1. Plan, Plan, and Plan Some More
The best tip we can give you for larger DIY projects is plan until you can’t plan anymore. It might be tempting to go ahead a bust down that wall or take down that tile with having a plan for how to rebuild or replace it, but putting together a DIY plan beforehand can make all the difference.
If you’re remodeling your bathroom, measure the space, line up a good plumber, and pick out all the new tiles, the toilet, the tub, and the vanity, and then you can start the job.
For very large projects, there are even design software tools that can help draw and sketch plans, create a 3D space, and even input your exact dimensions so that you can plan out your DIY project exactly. This also plays a big part in getting small things like caster wheels for moving or even bolts and screws.
2. Decide Your Budget and Timeline
Next, you will want to decide on both your budget and timeline for your project. Unlike small DIY projects, larger ones like redoing a kitchen, replacing floors, or updating a bathroom can take longer. Make sure your timeline for your DIY project takes that into account and is realistic. Most likely, you won’t be completing your project over the course of one weekend.
Also, you will want to account for the time it takes to gather and order supplies. Next, a budget is a must. It’s easy to think that your project won’t cost that much, but remember, the bigger the project, the bigger the budget. Be sure to take into account materials, labor, tools, permits, and unexpected costs that may pop up.
3. Buy More than You Think You Need
Yes, sometimes over planning and buying more tools and material than you think you might need is the way to go. There’s nothing worse than being in the middle of a large project only to realize you’ve run out hardwood, paint, or nails, or even don’t have the right tool for the job, and then having to pause your work for an afternoon or even longer.
You can always move around your supplies from one place to another, using casters, in order to store it until you need it. Anything you don’t end up using can easily be returned for a refund or saved for future projects.
4. Know Your Own Skills
The worst thing that can happen during a large DIY project is that you get in over your head. That’s why it’s important to be honest with yourself about what skills you have and which ones you don’t. You might be excellent at painting and refinishing but not so good at using a saw.
In that case, plan to take on the painting duties while you enlist a friend or a professional to handle the saw. Just because DIY stands for “do it yourself” doesn’t mean you have to do it all yourself, especially on larger projects that might require expert skills that you might not have mastered yet.
Hopefully, these tips will help you work on your home together without as much stress and fighting.