Have you ever had a craving for something amazing to eat, but you just didn’t know what it was? I do this at least on a monthly basis. This is different than my pizza, Pepsi, and doughnut run that I usually make.
There are just times when I’m hungry for something different than what I usually eat. Don’t get me wrong here, I am the cook in my house, and I eat really awesome food…(not tooting my horn, just being honest)…but there are times when I need something else.
It goes like this in the bedroom, too. We all have a craving for something new sexually from time to time, we just don’t always know what. Maybe you have a lot of great sex, but one night, you are in the mood for something more.
Understand Why You Are Craving Something Different
When I am looking for something to eat that is out of the ordinary or that I haven’t had in a while, for the most part, it is a mental thing. Maybe I need comfort, or I need to just break out of the ordinary. There are all kinds of reasons that I have these cravings.
In the area of sexual desire, we crave something new for a lot of reasons. It could be that:
You feel extra close to your spouse and want to express that physically
Emotionally you are drained and need an outlet
A past sexual experience with your spouse came to mind and got you excited
You just want more of a good thing
You’ve been distant from your spouse and think a change would be good for you
These are the good reasons that you might be craving something new. You should note that there are a lot of other reasons you are experiencing these cravings that are not for the right reasons.
It could be you are dealing with:
Lack of intimacy
If you are dealing with these negatives, then different sex may is not going to satisfy your cravings. You have real heart issues that is getting in the way of you emotionally connecting with your lover.
One thing to keep in mind when it comes to deciding what to try, is the purpose behind it. If you are only looking to meet your own sexual desires, it will leave you unsatisfied. I say that because it is really hard to get your spouse on board with a new idea if they think you are being selfish.
The cravings you have are definitely physical, but a lot of it is mental.
Don’t forget to mentally connect with your lover, not just be physically connected. Sex is so much more than climax.
Reliable Sites Are Hard to Come By
If you were to go do an internet search right now of how to spice up your sex life, all sorts of trash and annoying articles will show up.
Much of those articles will focus on all of the things you can do outside of the bedroom to make love making better. The other large portion will be made up of useless information mixed with absolute trash. Oh…I know! Let’s cut on porn and watch that together…oh!…or invite another person to get busy with us….smh.
I’ve done a few “spicing” it up posts, but it can’t hurt to put together another one. Fortunately for me, I am a sex and marriage blogger and I have found a lot of great resources that will help you spice up the love making.
Be Prepared Ahead of Time
A lot of married people get into trouble when they have a sexual craving outside of the norm. This is particularly true if they have addictions to porn or harmful sexual fetishes. Even those that do not have a problem with these things can walk away feeling awful, because they saw too much.
That happens to me when I have a food craving out of the normal. I have no idea what to get, so I most often end up eating too much before I can figure out what would satisfy the craving.
When you are searching around trying to find something new to try, you will encounter so much garbage that it ends up tainting your sexual experience.
Having a plan ahead of time is really helpful when it comes to your cravings. I hope that you will look at Love Hope Adventure as a safe place you can come to and look around for sexy ideas to make your love life feel steamy.
Fun Bedroom Games
I have several bedroom games that I have put together for you. All of these posts have free downloadable board games and ideas of how you can create your own.
You can check out these free games that have printables:
Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.