Austin and I spent 5 years dating before we were married. We were very intentional with our communications and learning about one another. However, there is nothing that really prepares you for living with each other until you do it.
We spent all of our holidays together. Like every family, we had different expectations about what would occur during the holiday season and on the day of celebration. Since we had been to one another’s houses on those special days, I didn’t think there would be any surprises during those seasons. Boy was I wrong!
When I Brought Home Our First Pumpkin
During our first round of holidays as a married couple, plenty of things surprised Austin. (I’ll save our First Thanksgiving story for later on.) As soon as pumpkins hit the store, I bought one and brought it back to our little apartment.
Little did I know that Austin and I had two totally different ideas for that pumpkin. He was fully expecting to make a night of carving the pumpkin together.
Imagine his horror when he came home and found it like this:
What a big surprise he got when he realized I didn’t buy it for decorating, rather for eating. I think he was pretty disappointed in it.
What I Learned About Holiday Traditions
Both Austin and I had different holiday traditions that we grew up participating in. I’m not talking just about Christmas traditions either. Actually, I find that that the lesser holidays are the ones that take you by surprise.
It took a few years for me to make room in the budget to purchase a pumpkin for carving. I’ll be honest, I didn’t want to budge on this one. I felt pumpkin carving was a bit of a waste.
Over the years, I realized that this was a tradition that was important to Austin. I didn’t get this one right for the first few years, but eventually I did.
Heading Into The Holiday Season
Whether this is your first holiday season as a couple or you have been together for many years, really listen to your spouse. Is there a tradition that is important to them that you have never bothered to adopt? If so, find a way to make that happen this year.
It is never too late to honor your spouse’s wishes and make their desires happen. Maybe you will find that you really grow to love the things your husband or wife want to do during these times.
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Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.