Austin and I got married in 2003! It feels like a lifetime ago in one regard but like hardly any time has passed at the same time. When we celebrate our anniversary, we don’t tend to go all out. Instead, there are a few things that we do to recognize the day and really enjoy each other.
Celebrating Our Anniversary
My oldest and my youngest sons were born in June. Our anniversary is sandwiched between kid’s birthdays and everything that goes along with that. Also, Austin’s birthday is in May, and we have Mother’s Day and Father’s Day all close together.
Having the ability to make a big fuss over our anniversary is not something we can do with our time and budget constraints. That doesn’t mean that we should ignore the day or not celebrate.
What We Focus On
Regardless of what we do in celebration of our anniversary, there are a few things we always focus on. We put our biggest focus on each other and our marriage. As long as we do these few things, our day is special.
Coffee is Almost Always Involved
Austin and I have a deep love for one another, and a deep love for coffee! We spent so much time in our dating years sitting in Barnes and Nobles sipping a cup of coffee together. I am sure if we went back and tallied up the amount of money we spent on Starbucks coffee, it would be shameful.
Those years sitting in the Barnes and Nobles in Greenbrier brings back so many memories. Even though we lived in a big city, every time we sat in the cafe’, we would run into friends. It was a place we connected with each other and with other people.
Sitting down with a cup of coffee is still a way that we connect, even if it isn’t in the cafe’ of a Barnes and Nobles. As part of our anniversary celebration, there is usually coffee involved at some point.
We Reminisce About The Good Times
In my opinion, it is really important to talk about the good times that you and your spouse have experienced. Austin and I have been known to pull out old pics from our dating years, wedding day, or early years of marriage.
Reminiscing about how we fell in love or other things we did that were fun and exciting makes my heart feel closer to him. It is really amazing to look back at our years together and see how far we’ve come.
The unwritten rule on our anniversary is to keep the conversations about our love for each other and ways we’ve expressed it over the years. Sometimes, we remind the other why we fell in love with them in the first place.
We like to use conversation starters to help us with this. Here are a few resources for that:
Intimately Us App – It has a lot of great conversation starters in there for couples.
Intimate Conversations Card Game – You can grab this pdf download in our shop. It has questions to help you talk about your relationship in the past and also a few sexy moves.
We Engage in Physical Intimacy
I can’t imagine an anniversary without being physically intimate with my lover. That is a main thing that sets apart our marriage from our other relationships. Of all days, this is a day we should spend time focusing on pleasing each other physically.
Now, I know that there have been times in which my cycle has interrupted that, but we find a way to work around it. We postpone the anniversary celebrations or do the best we can with other means.
Playing a bedroom game is always a fun way to engage with one another. I have several games on my website that you can check out. Some of the popular games on my blog are listed in the sidebar, but here are a few that a great for anniversaries:
These are the main things we focus on when we celebrate our special day. You don’t have to spend a lot of money or go somewhere extravagant to show your spouse that you love them. I encourage you that on your anniversary, that you will figure out what is most important to your marriage and focus on it.