There are plenty of things you can do in the bedroom to make things exciting. Mirrors can be a great way to enhance your love life. Even if you don’t use them all the time, it is good to switch things up a bit.
What it Really Looks Like to Be Physically Active
Would you believe that people being intimate looks nothing like it does on television? What a shocker, right? There is little to nothing about movie sex that is true to life.
While I fast forward through inappropriate scenes as quickly as possible, enough flashes before the screen for me to know it is all wrong. These images and actions can crowd our minds when we visualize physical intimacy with our spouses.
Getting in front of the mirror with your spouse can be an eye-opening experience. One that I think you’ll enjoy.
Why You Should Use Mirrors in The Bedroom
Aside from being an eye-opening experience about what it really looks like to be intimate, getting in front of the mirror is great for your love life. Seeing what is going on has many benefits for you and your spouse. Here are some of the top reasons you should use mirrors.
Men are very visual and enjoy seeing their wives naked. Not only do husbands benefit from seeing their reflection, but so do women. During intercourse or other acts of foreplay, mirrors can help a woman feel more stimulated. Since women have a hard time staying mentally focused during lovemaking, seeing what is going on can really help.
Makes You Feel Very Attractive
Looking at you and your lover in the mirror can do great things for your self-esteem if you let it. While you are looking at you and your spouse being intimate, you can see the true beauty in the gift God gave you. It is really important that you allow yourself to feel sexy during intimate times. Reflections are really helpful for this.
Builds Excitement During Your Encounter
If you allow yourself to feel sexy while you gaze at what is going on, it will build excitement during your encounter. This can serve as a way to make the time feel a lot more fun. When your heart is pumping and your mind is racing, it makes physical intimacy a lot better.
Gets You Moving
There is little to no way to be dormant when you are watching what is going on. Seeing your reflection will get you excited and cause you to desire to do more. You will find that your sense of adventure in the bedroom increases.
Gives You Images to Recall Later
Like I said earlier, women have a hard time keeping their minds focused during sex. Having these images stored in your mind gives you something to visualize. I know that for myself, if I find my mind wandering to the grocery list, I can just recall things I’ve seen in the mirror.
Getting Comfortable in Front of the Mirror
I realize that getting in front of the mirror while being intimate is probably not the top priority for everyone. If you have low self-esteem and don’t like the way you look, this can be a scary thing. Before you dare to bare in front of the mirror, I have a few suggestions for you.
Learn to see yourself as the beautiful and sexy person you are. Follow my “How to Feel Beautiful” series for weekly challenges to help you with this.
Spend time undressed in front of the mirror. If you can get comfortable with yourself unclothed in front of the mirror, you will have an easier time doing this with your spouse.
Start out using a smaller mirror. Can’t fathom the thought of seeing your entire reflection? Start out using a handheld mirror that you can use to see what is going on in smaller areas.
Do Men Enjoy Using Mirrors During Sex?
Yes. Yes they do. I had my husband Austin answer this question for women who want to know, “Do men enjoy using mirrors during sex?”.
Here’s what he had to say:
Ok, maybe we need more than that as an answer.
As always, I’ll begin with the disclaimer that not all men are the same. We talk a lot about gender generalities (genderalities? No that’s dumb.). But just because something is true of most/a lot of men doesn’t mean it’s true of all men.
Guys, if none of the following things are true of you, that’s cool. You be you. Ladies, if you’re wondering about this, go back to our core principle – Communicate, communicate, communicate.
That being said, why would men enjoy using mirrors during sex? Well, there’s a few reasons.
Your Husband Thinks You’re Hot
We’ll get more into the specifics of how this pertains to mirrors in the next section. However, I always want to start here. I’m constantly saddened at what the culture is teaching girls and women about their bodies. So many women are ashamed of their looks.
So ladies, always remember this. Your husband thinks you’re hot. He thinks you’re sexy. He likes your body. Let him see it. Be visually generous. Be confident. Remember that when you get naked, your husband loves it.
Men Are Usually Visually Oriented
A lot of guys are very visually stimulated. This is why porn is typically more popular with men, while erotic fiction is more popular with women. With the rising availability and mainstreaming of porn, this trend seems to be changing, btw.
Guys like to look. We want to see your body, all of it. We want to see different angles. We want to see you in different positions. Mirrors can allow for this. It’s impossible to see a side view without a mirror, and that can be incredibly erotic.
Mirrors Create Adventure
For some couples, using mirrors kind of takes things to a new level. It’s going on an adventure, which we’re huge fans of in all areas of the marriage. It can be an interesting next step in exploring openness and engagement in sex.
Maybe you’re a couple that started out having very hidden sex. By that, I mean sex in the dark, under the covers, etc. Hopefully, you’ve moved beyond that, turning on the lights and enjoying the sight of each other’s bodies. Mirrors provide another step in that direction, allowing you to see each other even better.
Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.