Wives, Be Flirty!

I’m so excited to introduce you to Rebekah Hargraves from Hargraves Home and Hearth. She and I met on Instagram and I’ve loved following her there. She is coming on today to talk with us about wives flirting with their husbands. I agree! Flirting is so important in marriage and is one of the ways we can build intimacy.

Here’s what she has to say-

I was reading in Proverbs the other day and came upon the chapters which speak to the characteristics of the adulterous woman. I love to study the Bible. The following verses in particular really stood out to me:

“Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids.” ~Proverbs 6:25″That they may keep you from the immoral woman, from the seductress who flatters with her words” ~Proverbs 7:5″So she caught him and kissed him” ~Proverbs 7:13″So [she] came out to meet you, diligently to seek your face,” ~Proverbs 7:15 “With her enticing speech she caused him to yield, with her flattering lips she seduced him.” ~Proverbs 7:21

What really stood out to me was that it was this woman’s flirtatiousness (her flattering and enticing words, alluring eyes, initiation, and diligence to seek the man) which caused him to yield.

Flirtatiousness itself is not what is sinful here.

What is sinful in this passage is that here we have a married woman seducing another man. Yet too often, especially in conservative Christian circles, women think that it is somehow dirty, sinful, or worldly to flirt with their husbands, to initiate in the bedroom, or to seek out their husbands, letting them know that they are attractive and wanted.

Ladies, not only are these flirtatious actions not sinful within the context of marriage, but they are precisely what your husband yearns for from you! It is this yearning which caused the foolish man of Proverbs 6 and 7 to fall prey to the seductress.

Don’t leave your husband open to the temptresses out there.

Don’t give those women a leg up when it comes to ravishing your husband. Let’s take back our rightful place, the place of being flirty and enticing, the place of being the one with whom our husbands are delighted in and intoxicated by (Proverbs 5:18-19).

Throughout the Song of Solomon we see how the Shulamite woman felt about and treated her man and let me tell you – she was one flirtatious woman!

Ways to be more flirty with your husband.

How, then, can we more easily incorporate flirting with our husbands into the midst of our busy lives? The following are some ideas to help you get started and to spark your imagination for how you, too, can be that enticing, initiating, alluring wife for your man:

• Send him flirty little text messages during the day, letting him know you’re thinking of him
• Hide notes in the lunch container he takes to work, in his car, or on his side of the bed
• Let him know you’re wearing something flirty
• Tell him you are looking forward to being with him
• Get a babysitter, schedule a special date night on the calendar, pick up some of Keelie’s bedroom games, and tell your hubby what you have planned
• Tell him how attractive you find him to be

For wives like me who may tend to typically be a little more on the self-conscious side, being super flirty and open may seem awkward. But I bet that even we can text our hubbies a flirty little message!

So, ladies, be encouraged, be inspired, and enjoy adding all the flirtatiousness and fun you can to your marriage! You will be glad you did.

Rebekah Hargraves is a wife, mama of two kiddos 2 and under, home business owner, podcaster, and blogger residing in TN. Her passion is to bless fellow Christian women through her writings on her website, Hargraves Home and Hearth,which exists to edify, equip, and encourage women in their everyday life, for their journey of Biblical womanhood.