I’ve been doing yoga and pilates moves for many years. My mom always swore by doing these types of poses to relieve stiffness and help with her mobility. I’ve tried to keep in mind that I won’t always be as flexible as I am now, which is why I have been doing poses for a while.
I invited Meera Watts on to share with us a few yoga poses that she recommends. I realize that some of these are advanced, but I encourage you to try one or two to see if it works for you. I like doing the Boat Pose. It took a lot of practice to figure it out, but it has been really beneficial to building my core.
Here’s what Meera has to say-
My common excuses for why my sex life isn’t as hot and steamy as it once was doesn’t deviate from most couple’s reasons. I don’t feel like I have the time and more importantly, I feel so exhausted when my day is done that it’s challenging to get into the mood.
I’m tired and often the day has left me somewhat stressed. I started taking yoga classes daily. What I found was those evening classes shifted my energy. I would go home and do things I didn’t normally have the energy or desire to.
This elevated my sex life with my partner. After some research, I came to understand that there are yoga poses that help to relax you while stimulating the body to be more energetic.
The following poses help me wring out my daily stress so I can be myself and connect with my partner more often. If you feel like your sex life could be better, try these poses for yourself. Maybe you can even get your spouse to do it with you. Chances are, they have the same stress built up as you do.
The Sanskrit meaning for Chair Pose is “intense” and is considered a pose that evokes your fierce self. As you bring on the fire within, you can use that energy for the bedroom.
How to do it
- Start in Mountain Pose with your feet together.
- Raise your arms over your head as you inhale.
- While exhaling, bend your knees, and try to bring your thighs parallel to the floor.
- Reach your elbows to your ears.
- Slightly pull tailbone down to the floor and keep your back lengthened.
- Lift your chest up.
- Transfer as much weight as you can onto your heels.
- Keep looking forward and spread your shoulder blades for a deep stretch in the upper back.
- You may shake in this pose but the body is igniting its inner fire. Try to hold it for one minute.
- Release back to Mountain Pose with ease.
Video Instruction for this
Side Angle (Parsvakonasana)
This pose will instantly relieve stiffness in your back and shoulders which is usually where you hold your stress. The deep groin stretch will release repressed emotions and improve your stamina. I don’t think I need to mention how important stamina is when it comes to sex.
How to do it
- Again, you’ll want to begin in Mountain Pose with your feet touching.
- Get yourself into Warrior II.
- On your exhale, lower your forearm until it rests on your right thigh.
- Your left arm should reach up to the sky. Then you extend it over your head.
- Face your head up the sky.
- If you’ve practices this pose before, you can put your front hand on the floor.
- Release by pressing the back foot into the floor and slowly make your way to a standing position.
- Repeat on the other side.
One of the main causes of stress in life is a disharmony within ourselves. Boat Pose is a balance pose that promotes you to celebrate your strengths and abolish the feelings of inadequacy you might feel. With greater mental strength, you will have more confidence to share intimacy with your partner and let go of a negative sense of self.
How to do it
- Begin seated with feet on the floor and bent knees.
- Straighten your arms and lift them to shoulder height.
- Lift one foot so your leg is bent at a 90-degree angle.
- Lift the other foot to meet it.
- Extend both legs and try to make your body “V” shaped.
- Use your core to stay in the position.
To see how to do this better- check out this video.
Seated Wide Angle (Upavistha Konasana)
This one stretches both the interior and back of your legs while stimulating the abdominal organs. This promotes better digestion which will give you increased energy. As you release tension in the groin, you also calm the brain deeply. This is deeply relaxing and allows you to fall into it for 5-10 minutes while you stretch and de-stress.
- Start in Staff Pose and open your legs into a side split as much as possible.
- If you don’t feel comfortable, sit on a folded blanket to get into the pose.
- Rotate the thighs out until your knees point to the sky.
- Walk your hands forward in the middle of your mat.
- You should be lengthening the torso as opposed to bending from the waist.
- Slowly move your torso forward with each breath.
- Stay in this pose for 5-10 minutes. To come out of it walk your hands backwards until you’re back in Staff Pose.
This one looks like an extended bow and promotes healing of anxiety and fatigue. It’s also an intense heart opening pose which allows you to receive love from your partner. There is no better foreplay than feeling emotionally open to the person you love.
How to do it
- Start on your belly with hands beside you, palms up.
- On your exhale, bend knees so the heels come to the buttocks.
- Reach your hands back and grab your ankles.
- As you inhale, lift your heels up and away while lifting your thighs away from the floor.
- Open your heart by pressing shoulder blades together.
- Look forward and keep the neck supple.
- To release the pose, slowly release your hands from ankles and come back to lying face front.
Shoulder Stand (Sarvangasana)
Not only does the Shoulder Stand Pose stimulate the thyroid gland, you also give your heart a break which increases energy. The pose relieves stress and opens your shoulders. This heart opening de-stressing pose will give you a feeling of peace and power for intimacy with your partner.
How to do Shoulder Stand Pose
- Start on your back lying down straight. Your arms should be straight by your side.
- Bend your knees and place feet on the ground.
- Bring both legs up and over as though you’re trying to touch your toes to the ground.
- From there, bring knees to your head.
- Then lift both legs up straight with toes pointing.
- Your arms should be pressing against the ground to offer stability.
Feel free to make all or some of these poses a part of your regular yoga workout. You can also just choose one per evening. I usually take ten minutes to do a few of these poses when I get home from work. It not only gives me energy to play with my partner but I also feel keen to make dinner and do some of the other mundane tasks of life.
Meera Watts is a yoga teacher, entrepreneur and mom. Her writing on yoga and holistic health has appeared in Elephant Journal, Yoganonymous, OMtimes and others. She is among top 20 Yoag bloggers as reviewed by ThoroughlyReviewed. She’s also the founder and owner of Siddhi Yoga International, a yoga teacher training school based in Singapore. Siddhi Yoga runs intensive, residential trainings in India (Rishikesh, Goa and Dharamshala), Indonesia (Bali).