You Husband Wants You to Pay Attention to His Penis

For lack of a better word, I’m calling your husband’s penis his member. I listened to my friend Belah Rose talk about this today on the Delight Your Marriage podcast. This is the episode where she talks about the 3 things men want in sex. She’s interviewed me before over there about how women can orgasm.

Your Husband Wants You To Pay Attention to His Penis

Today, she talked about something that I think many wives have never thought of doing for their husband. That is to pay attention to your husband’s member. Many men crave their wife’s attention to this area. They want their wife to talk about it, enjoy it themselves, and give it all types of attention.

They Don’t Feel Comfortable Saying This

I think a lot of men don’t feel comfortable asking their wife to do this. They want to use this part of their body to please their wife and be pleased by their wife. But, if they start asking their wife to pay detailed attention to this area, they might feel like they are being a pervert or using their wife. Or worse, they may think their wife will feel this way about them.

Pay Attention to His Penis Without Him Asking

As a woman, you want your husband to pay attention to you. You crave his attention in many ways. You want him to tell you he thinks you’re hair looks great. You want him to pursue you sexually with his words and actions. You want him to notice the things you do for the family.

Not only is it not weird for your husband to pay attention to you, you expect it. He has the same desires. His desires include you giving extra attention to his member. A way to bless your husband is to find ways to pay attention to this part of him without him asking. We always feel more loved when our spouse does things for us that we truly need without mentioning it to them.

Turn Admiration Into Intimacy

It’s ok to let your attention to his penis turn into a time of intimacy. Not that this is the only reason you should look at him or talk about his member. However, it is great foreplay for him and can be a real turn on for you.

The more you do this, the easier it will be for you. Anytime you are apprehensive about something in the bedroom, exposing yourself a little at a time is how to work through it.

Hopefully, you can give your husband sexual confidence and feelings of love by admiring his member.

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  1. I’ll do what you probably hesitated to do do for any number of reasons. Please do not entangle the term “worship” with any religious context it might have as applies to the Holy Trinity. I’ll use the term penis worship. We men worship your bodies in its parts and in whole. Yes, we get aroused touching your bodies and we touch your bodies to arouse you, but with the viewing and touching of your body comes an attitude of worship from us. We feel truly blessed to share your bodies with you as ordained under 1Cor 7:2-5.

    One might argue why not use the term “penis appreciation” instead. My reason would be that appreciation does not carry the significant emotional weight of worship. Worship implies a deep and dedicated love. That is how we feel about our wives and their bodies and how we wish you to feel about us and our penis in particular.

    We strongly identify with our penis in a way I suspect women identify with their ovaries and uterus. They are the only organs that truly differentiate us physically. I believe this is why men may regard performing oral sex as a ritual of worship of their wives. Feeling that way as we do, we desire that you feel the same about our penis, even if not blessing us with oral. It is how you touch the penis. Think of it as the difference between handling doll and an actual baby. Baby our penis. Fawn and coo over it. Caress and stroke it with love. Tell it how special and pretty it is even. As silly as some of this may sound, it is not an overstatement. We love our penis in a way that it is difficult for women with often typical body issues to comprehend. We may agonize over length and girth at times, but when it performs as consistently well as it does we feel no shame over those ill-perceived deficiencies.

    When we feel our penis is not loved, adored even, we can feel less than fully loved. I think it would not be incorrect to say that we men look for the same strong emotional connection toward our penises that women look for for their hearts and minds in the relationship. Love me; love my penis.

    Keelie, I’ll understand if you do not publish this or edit it for content but I felt the truth had to be emphatically (hopefully not graphically) told to be understood and appreciated.

  2. Keelie,

    You- “Thanks for your feedback.
    I didn’t say worship in my article. What’s that addressing?”

    Me- “I’ll do what you probably hesitated to do do for any number of reasons. Please do not entangle the term “worship” with any religious context it might have as applies to the Holy Trinity. I’ll use the term penis worship.”

    I’m sorry for any misunderstanding I may have caused for you or your readers. You did not use that term. What I was meaning to do there was qualify my use of that term deeper in my comment:
    As to not using the term appreciation instead of worship: “My reason would be that appreciation does not carry the significant emotional weight of worship. Worship implies a deep and dedicated love. That is how we feel about our wives and their bodies and how we wish you to feel about us and our penis in particular.”

    I wanted you and your readers to be aware that I appreciated and acknowledged the use of the word “worship” in it’s religious context and was not meaning to be disrespectful or sacrilegious by using the term “penis worship.” I am not suggesting or implying that a wife worship her husband’s penis as an idol but regard it with appropriate love and attention.
    A partial definition from Merriam Webster:
    “extravagant respect or admiration for or devotion to an object of esteem…”

    I hope this clarifies the confusion I apparently created. Thank you for thinking there may have been something not adequately explained.
    Dan

  3. You’re spot on. Who we are as men is defined by our penis. Having our wife honor our penis and are glad that we greatly enjoy what God so amazingly created for us, is a big deal to us.

    The power of a man is in the way he uses his penis. If he misuses it like David did with Bathsheba, the men of Sodom, Lot with his daughters, and the many men of our day, these men are weak and cause an astounding amount of destruction. But a man whose penis is focused on his wife, and goes after her with his penis, he is a powerful man.

    Abraham was a powerful man because he believed God and God credited to him as righteousness. Abraham believed what? He believed that God would make sure his penis worked as an old man, that he would enjoy the pleasure of ejaculating into his wife, and that God would ensure his old wife would conceive their promised son. Abraham’s faith was wrapped up in his penis. No wonder Satan and our society attacks men and their penises to get us to misuse it and be weak. Satan knows that weak men are astoundingly destructive to a society and especially its families.

  4. Men naturally want to play with his wife’s body. We do it all the time. But, there are times when for the sake of the marriage and to help my wife return back to focusing on me, we have a play-with-my penis-night. Those nights foreplay mainly is me playing with myself for her. I stroke myself to remind her what I like and show her where my penis’ most enjoyable places are. One of my wife’s absolute favorites is when I get on all fours and slide in and out between two pillows that I learned to do in junior high school. When I really get into it, she loves to ride on my back and pushi her vulva against my backside. She most always orgasms big that way. She says when I’m really getting into enjoying myself, it turns her on big time and she wants to enjoy it with me. Thankfully I had great advice when I was a young teenager to thoroughly enjoy masturbating while learning control. That made all the difference for us for I can really get into the double-pillow and then when she orgasmed, I flip her over and blast a volume in her like a dang geyser. It’s just so much fun being married! And so thankful God made my wife and I so free we have had a blast sexually playing with each other for 37 years of marriage. And it’s so much fun putting the effort into keeping that freedom.

  5. Hi Keelie, thanks so much for writing this! Even with your article as a guide sometimes during conversations like this I still have a hard time expressing my feelings coherently to my wife and was thinking of just sharing your article with her. Do you have any suggestions for how to bring it up and share it with her without seeming needy/accusatory?

    1. Hey Alex,

      thanks for your comment. I completely understand how hard it is to broach this subject with your spouse. I think sharing this article is a good starting point. But, after that, you can share your feelings of wanting to feel like this part of you is attractive to her. Just like she wants you to think she’s attractive and has concerns about her body, this is an area of your body where you desire that.

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